When I retired from work (civil service - government office) years ago, I wrote a farewell speech which ended with ' I did it my way' (line taken from Frank Sinatra's famous song).
Well, I should have written, perhaps: 'Despite the corruption, boss incompetence, women discrimination, bureaucracy ...I did it my way' or, 'managed to do it my way'. But I lacked the courage:)
I entered civil service after working as a teacher for seven years in a comprehensive school. I've always wished to be a teacher, but I didn't like what I saw in this type of school, and quit.
On top of it all I got ill. Probably the stress from both places, school and office, caused it. Anyway, that sadly affected my advance to a better rewarded position within the system.
Here's the opening part of the speech (translated from Hebrew) which is an attempt to define my general , rather positive feelings on retirement (in Hebrew it sounds much better).
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'Retirement is a beginning, not beginning of the end
It's an emotional, and significant event
There's expectation for something different and new
Involving social- economic changes too.
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Retirement is not stopping of activity
But rather opportunities in creativity
Concentration on leisure and balance
Transition to a world full of challenge
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Sometimes, retirement closes one door
Opening another one, to explore
The terms of diligence and action
Enterprise , professional satisfaction
Nice. I've been retired now for about 6 years and I find each and everyday fulfilling in a different way. I never get bored; but hubby is still working; because he's afraid he will get bored. Work so often defines who we think we are...maybe more so for men? But, because he can work from anywhere (the one positive that came out of the Covid Pandemic), we're able to travel a lot and he can still work which satisfies both needs.
ReplyDeleteIt looks good. You like your retirement, hubby likes his work. You two complement each other , and there's money for travel.
DeleteBeautiful. My retirement was forced on me by health issues. I discovered that I had been defining myself by what I did. A mistake. I have been retired for more than twenty years now. Health issues still plague me but I continue to contribute to the community through my voluntary work and my life is full. And I am still learning - which is hugely important to me.
ReplyDeleteThere are quite a lot of people that are able to contribute to community, more through volunteering work, than through any other type of work. One's own self also gets rewarded by volunteering.
DeleteMy rewards are HUGE.
DeleteI can well imagine that. You're a kind and very special soul, Sue!
DeleteDuta, it's been fun getting to know you more. I didn't realize that you had been a teacher. I also taught school for nine years in a private school.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that the stress from both jobs have caused you health issues and that you have had to retire. However, I do appreciate your views on retirement. My husband retired from a job he loved in 2018 and it certainly was a beginning for him...and it made the opportunity available for him to become creative by using a scrollsaw. He does beautiful work and I'm thankful that he took a right view of retirement.
Your husband seems to be a 'happy case' - retired from a work he loved, and enterd the world of creativity, using a scrollsaw which is great for intricate, decorative projects.
DeleteGood words!
ReplyDeleteMy husband almost retired this year - is now working only 2 days a week. Retirement is getting closer for me too, so I appreciated your words.
Thank you, Mari. I suppose when you retire too, you and Bob will start a wonderful new page in life, with plans and projects that require time you didn't have as employees.
DeleteDearest Duta,
ReplyDeleteWHY use a line from somebody else for finishing your career at retirement?!
Always be yourself—that is the very best.
As a 'singer' I've never appreciated Frank Sinatra...
Your translation reads well!
Hugs,
Mariette
No Duta, I was NOT referring to the use of language but rather NOT using your OWN words... why borrow?!
DeleteThanks for your comment, Mariette.
Delete😳
DeleteMariette, I decided not to have a debate on Sinatra's verse, so I left only your main comment.
DeleteI walked away without a word to anyone. I had given my life’s blood. I was happy finally to put myself first.
ReplyDeleteYou sound very dramatic here, Marie. Putting yourself first is the very right thing to do. And you were happy about it - that's what matters.
DeleteRetirement, especially if it comes on suddenly and isn't prepared for well in advance, can be a bit depressing. If only someone had suggested to me that I book one adult education course every semester, travel around the country on long-distance train trips, allocate Sunday afternoons to take the grandchildren to the zoo etc, meet the Ladies Who Lunch every week, do more reading for conference papers and blog posts, and find a sport suitable for the older community. I haven't played a sport since my first pregnancy in 1972.
ReplyDeleteUsually, retirement is not something that comes on suddenly. Most people know well in advance when they're going to retire and could make adequate plans for this new stage in life.
DeleteI think the onset of COVID changed a lot of people's end-of-career plans. Very suddenly :(
DeleteCovid - yes, You may be right about that.
DeleteI will be retiring soon myself, and I know there will be more creativity in my life after work. So many political things being used now and I am not a fan of it. I do speak my mind, but my boss agrees with me and knows that i still do my job when many others just skate by day to day. Great post and great speech you had. Janice
ReplyDeleteYou've got a lot to look forward to, Janice. I wish you all the Best towards retirement!
DeleteThanks for your kind words about my post.
Didn't know that you were a teacher. I am enjoying my early retirement :-)
ReplyDeleteWell, it was not for a long period of time.
DeleteI'm sure you are enjoying your retirement, as you seem to concentrate on a very versatile , tasty aspect of life: food and culinaria.
It was very difficult for me when I retired, suddenly I turned in circles and did not know what to do with myself. It took me some time before I discovered my hobbies ! BTW yes Nicole is in a special section of the retirement home, she needs special care, while in mine those who are like me are in the first and second floor and the others in the 3rd and 4th.
ReplyDeleteThis is the third time that my text disappears, I did exactly what they wrote but after each update or on some blogs I just can't comment ! For me it was very hard when I got retired ! I turned in circles and didn't know what to do with myself. Was awful. But then I discovered my hobbies and once I started I had a new life.
ReplyDeleteYou are right Nicole with her brain cancer is in another section as I. But in my Home we are separated the people like me are on the first and second floor, those who need medical care on the third and those who are living deaths. So sad. But I don't have to change the floor, I will remain in my cozy room until the end. Only for the meals we have a restaurant while a lot of the others have to be fed in another room. Fortunately they don't realize. When I see Nicole it's so sad to see how some people are just living deaths.
This is the third time that my text disappears, I did exactly what they wrote but after each update or on some blogs I just can't comment ! For me it was very hard when I got retired ! I turned in circles and didn't know what to do with myself. Was awful. But then I discovered my hobbies and once I started I had a new life.
ReplyDeleteYou are right Nicole with her brain cancer is in another section as I. But in my Home we are separated the people like me are on the first and second floor, those who need medical care on the third and those who are living deaths. So sad. But I don't have to change the floor, I will remain in my cozy room until the end. Only for the meals we have a restaurant while a lot of the others have to be fed in another room. Fortunately they don't realize. When I see Nicole it's so sad to see how some people are just living deaths.
The key to a good retirement is tho find the right hobbies, as you did.
DeleteSo, your place does have a section for people who need medical care like Nicole, only it's on another floor or floors. That's usually the case with protected living facilities.
May you never need to be or live on that floor!
It is a lovely speech. I feel like you do about teaching. Yes, I did see things in schools that I could hardly take, and I know if I had stayed longer, it would have taken my health. Working in a library is much better. Although, there are strange times there too. I'm still wondering if I ever did anything my way though. And yet I have somehow sufficed. I think staying creative is key and of course finding the joy isn't always easy wherever we are so there is always gratitude. Thank you so much for the post. Winter is upon us here in the heartland states. And it is getting colder, like below zero. I haven't missed these winters, but I am glad we are getting the moisture for all the drought we've had.
ReplyDeleteThank you Ellie for your kind words. I totally agree with you about library versus school. The difference is in favour of library work. I also agree with you about staying creative as the key to finding joy.
DeleteHere's to retirement!
ReplyDeleteYes, here's to it! Retirement is an important turning point in life, regardless of the circumstances. It is also a positive one, in my humbe opinion.
DeleteI just love the opening of your speech, Duta. And it is so spot on. You nailed everything I believe about retirement. I loved my job (till the last two years and it was hell) but with retirement I get to love life too and have the time to create, read, have fun, go places and do things. I'm a much happier person! You said it perfectly. Just perfectly.
ReplyDeleteThanks Jeanie for your more than favourable view about the opening of my speech.
DeleteI totally believe you when you say you're a much happier person in retirement, having time for all the good things in life.
Retirement opens a whole new world of adventures, Duta. I do like your speech - it says it all!
ReplyDeleteBlessings!
That's correct. - a whole new world gets opened in front of the retiree. Thank you, Martha, for your kind words abou my speech.
DeleteI retired and moved to the country and I've loved every minute of it.
ReplyDeleteWell done, Inger (retiring and moving to the country)! I'm sure you 've loved every moment of your new life.
Deletealthough I work in a call centre with a lot of staff, I doubt if anyone would notice or care when I retire (next year). I have been there nearly 20 years and feel totally undervalued to be honest. Over the years I have taken on more and more responsibility, some years I am rewarded financially, most years not (depending on how hard I try to get noticed!). There is a lot of stress in the job. I have tried recently to get a transfer to another department and am blocked each time (3 different vacancies/departments) as they will say the job is not available to part timers or I am over qualified for the role or, last week, the job has been retracted and is no longer available. I am quite looking forward to retirement but wont be wasting too much energy on saying my goodbyes, it's an adventure - I will be too busy getting out the door as fast as possible! (Betty, Elderberry-rob)
ReplyDeleteI like your complete honesty about your job (stress) and the blocked options and/or possibilities. I know those things too well, and of course, I believe you.
DeleteRetirement will open new and bright horizons for you, Betty. I'm sure of that.
p.s. sad that you couldn't do the vocation you felt really drawn to (teaching). Betty
ReplyDeleteSad, indeed. It was very different from the school in the country I was born and got my education until age 16. I couldn't cope with the basis and policy of a comprehensive school.
DeleteYou have a wonderful way with words, DUTA, in every way, for every moment in time Your words have warmed my heart over the past couple of weeks, in particular. Words and the caring behind them, I shall never forget.
ReplyDeleteTake good care...stay well...stay safe.
Yes, yes, yes! How blessed that retirement is a new beginning, not the end. Time for the creative life to blossom, whereas before, in the labor force, much of our energy was spent in making a living. Blessings, Duta, enjoy your days.
ReplyDeleteWell put, Debra! While in labor force , our energy has been spent mostly on making a living whereas in retirement our energy goes to creativity.
DeleteBlessings to you too!
It's sad in one way that you couldn't continue to teach but you believed in certain things and that school wasn't for you obviously and you had the courage to leave - good on you.
ReplyDeleteRetirement certainly opens another door full of mostly different things.
You speech was nice too Duta.
Take care.
I've presented here only the opening of the speech which emphasizes something that interests everyone - retirement.
DeleteThe body of the speech is more personal, dealing with my work within the system itself. So, I skipped it.
Anyway, thank you Margaret for thinking nicely of my speech.
Well written Duta
ReplyDeleteThanks, Ashok. I greatly appreciate your opinion.
DeleteComparto contigo al ciento por ciento, en que la jubilación es el comienzo de una etapa nueva, sin tantas ataduras como las que tenemos cuando estamos activos profesionalmente, y con tiempo para emprender nuevos proyectos de lo que realmente nos gusta.
ReplyDeleteNo se que tiempo hace desde que te jubilaste, pero espero y deseo que hayan cambiado a mejor los temas de corrupción, la discriminación de las las mujeres, etc., aunque con un Gobierno de ultra derecha, ya se sabe: las cosas de palacio van despacio.
Un fuerte abrazo, amiga Duta.
Sadly, Manuel, things haven't changed much since my retirement. Perhaps only some small, superficial changes can be traced. Corruption, incompetence, women discrimination, bureaucracy, political interference - are still here.
ReplyDeleteI love that Frank Sinatra song. When I worked at the funeral home, that song was played a lot at funerals. There is a spanish version that was played at my Aunts funeral that I had never heard, but definitely recognized the music.
ReplyDeleteThis is an amazing post because I am nearing retirement, actually I could retire now, I'm of "that age" but I enjoy my job and I'm working from home, if I were to retire I would still be home, so I may as well make money while I'm here. But lines in that poem are what make me think often that it's time, that I need to retire.
I don't have time for creativity. There are so many things I want to make and do and my job takes 40 hours of my week away from me, time when I use my brain to fix problems and take care of my clients, by the end of day I am exhausted and the last thing I want to do is pick up a paint brush to paint or a crochet hook to crochet. Retirement may come earlier than I thought it would. I'm getting tired and cranky about doing my job.
Sorry to leave such a long comment, but you always inspire me DUTA.
I've been so captivated by the verse 'I did it my way' that I haven't noticed that the song is actually some sort of funeral song, especially because of the first opening lines:
Delete'And now, the wnd is near/ And so I face the final curtain'
(I might delete the video).
He's summarizing his life, I'm sumarizing my work during the pre-retirement period.
Thanks, Alicia for the compliment that says I always 'inspire' you.
Boa tarde de domingo e bom início de semana. Falta muito tempo para eu me aposentar. Espero que você possa aproveitar bastante.
ReplyDeleteGood for you Luiz, being still young.
ReplyDeleteThat's right, Duta, retirement is not the end, it's the beginning of many other things. But so that it does not cause us sadness, we must prepare ourselves some time in advance so that at the time of retirement it does not depress us.
ReplyDeleteTrue, Norma. As it is a new and late stage in life, we must prepare ourselves in advance, in order to avoid frustrations and disappointments that could, indeed, lead, God Forbid, to depression.
DeleteI so agree with you, I retired early, my excuse was I had to deal with my type 1 diabetes, but I was just not interested in working all the time. I went back to the same department at UCLA, and worked 20 hours a week, which was perfect for me. During this time, I got an assignment that made me a paid technical writer. I've never been as happy in any job as I was those last five years I worked part time.
ReplyDeleteYour story, Inger, is one of work with a happy end. That's the dream of all of those in the Work Force. Sadly, not everyone has one's dream fulfilled.
DeleteI had health forced retirement and knew I could enjoy being home, Now, hpwever, I wish to change where I live which is harder and more expensive.
ReplyDeleteHealth issues have priority in people's lives, and rightly so.
DeleteIndeed, moving to another living unit is both hard and expensive, but it's possible. You just have to persevere in your quest.
Amen to your speech, Duta, you said it well as retirement is definitely not an end to anything but a beginning to many new things. I retired over 20 years ago after a corporate down-sizing and spent time searching for another job, until realizing there was no need to do so as work was not what would fulfill me, but my interests and passions and they have. And, undoubtedly, yours have done the same for you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words , Dorothy.
DeleteYou did the very right thing after retirement choosing interests and passions over searching for another job.
Love to read it, also your translation.
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot, Aritha.
DeleteSuperb post
ReplyDeleteThank you, Rajani Rehana
DeleteDUTA, I like what you said . . . "retirement is not an end to anything but a beginning to many new things". This is so true. Thank you for sharing this thought-provoking post.
ReplyDeleteWishing you well, dear friend. Have a blessed Week.
this speech is very good!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Kathy. It's only the opening of that speech. Its body is longer and personal.
DeleteThat is excellent!!!
ReplyDeleteI hope you still feel positive!! : )
Well, yes. In my case, the working period was not something I miss. Retirement, on the other hand, allows me activities that bring me joy and satisfaction.
DeleteI was set to retire in April of 2020. We had made reservations for a trip that very next week. And then, you-know-what happened. We were on lockdown-no where to go, nothing to do, and because I had been working from home since mid March I just decided to keep working part time. My employer was agreeable. I'm still working about 17 hours a week. My husband has been retired five years now. It's worked well for both of us, but I think I'm nearing where I am ready to retire. I'm fortunate I have had good health during all this time.
ReplyDeletePart time job, agreeable employer, good health - not bad.
DeleteWishing you the best retirement ever, Alana!