I was listening the other day, to one of my favorite 'oldies' : "Blame it on the Bossa Nova" with Eydie Gormet. The very lovely lyrics of the song, put the 'blame' on the Bossa Nova dance for enabling the singer (or some other young girl) the good fortune of meeting the right one. " Oh, it all began with just one dance. But soon it ended up a big romance" .
That brings me to the opposite topic - blaming for misfortune.
People usually blame age, climate, luck, parents, school, for their... misfortune in life. I also blame my own self, and quite often. I ask myself questions like 'how could I do this or that', 'how stupid was I to act in this or that manner'.
I believe direction in life shown to us by an older, more experienced person, can in some way help avoid gross mistakes, and by this, even turn misfortune into good fortune. But then, when we are young, or even middle-aged, we think we know better, so we don't listen to advice, and then, it's too late.
I remember telling a young relative before starting his first job, something like : "Hard work won't kill you; people around you might. Beware!" He smiled, thanked me politely, and said he'll remember that.
In another case, I tried to give some slight advice to the daughter of a late cousin of mine. The daughter, sixteen years younger than me, reacted rudely: 'My mother has no less life experience than you do, so , I have her to learn things from' (actually, she wasn't on good terms with her mother, so I thought advice coming from a third party might do her some good.). Well, I thought...