We feel deeply relieved when seeing the above words about people who have disappeared.
I remember, though, cases where the disappeared people have not been found at all, neither dead nor alive, becoming unsolved mysteries.
A lot depends on the investigating teams, and on the co-operation and persistence of the family, if there is one around.
I've recently read the incredible story of Flora, found alive after 42 years of disappearance, in an old people's home . The investigators could not get much out of her about the disappearance, as she was with dementia.
However, they were given a little clue from another woman resident. It appeared, Flora had confided in her about having lived in an abusive marriage.
That might perhaps explain her sudden and very mysterious disappearance. which gave, over the years, a lot of work to various investigating teams.
I , personally, must admit , after carefully reading the long story, that I am not convinced the husband was the reason (and not because he seemed devastated , and willing to help the police find her).
I believe she was suffering of some kind of strange psychic problem that had distorted her mind and behavior, finally leading to her disappearance. Sad story .
The missing person is always a sad story especially for the family or friends left behind with no answers but plenty of questions.
ReplyDeleteRight, Bill - the missing person (we're facing now the clueless missing of a 9- year old girl!) is always a sad story, with many questions but almost no answers.
DeleteMissing is always a dreadful word - and concept. Those unanswered questions haunt us.
DeleteSo very true, Sue!
DeleteA sad mystery that will probably never be solved.
ReplyDeleteBlessings, Duta!
Probably, unless someone will be curious enough to dig further, and ask the right questions at the old people's home, learning how to delicately handle the demented woman.
DeleteBlessings to you too, Martha!
So many of these sad cases through history. One can only hope that someone will care enough about the missing person to continue the investigation. Only a handful of them get into the media or grab the attention of a podcaster.
ReplyDeleteSo many cases, indeed! It's heart breaking! Sometimes , parents and spouses despair while waiting for a sign from the missing, get ill, and pass away.
DeleteI have seen similar coping strategies in the generation of holocaust survivors, even if they were not demented. My sister in law (92) and her friends in the old age home tell horrible stories, but soon the last of that generation will end.
ReplyDeleteThe article I'm referring to is focused on the efforts of the investigators to get to Flora. Upon finding her, they asked her a few basic questions, but I don't think she was in a position to tell stories, horrible or not.
DeleteSo many children have been lost and I so worry about them here. We have been hearing about the sex trade and underground sweat shops. So sad. Janice
ReplyDeleteMissing children is a category in its own, but nonetheless horrific. I've mentioned previously a recent local case of a 9 year old missing girl. So far, no clues.
DeleteIt does sound a sad tale Duta, it's wonderful that she was found as so many are not.
ReplyDeleteDespite it all, the 42 years and her condition, one could still say: 'all's well that ends well'.
DeleteHusband is always the top suspect on wife's disappearance or murder.
ReplyDeleteYes, that's the usual case : investigation and suspicion start with the closest people to the person in question.
Deletei used to watch tv show about missing person
ReplyDeleteNo wonder. These shows have it all: mystery, suspense, excitement and all the accompanying feelings of sadness and joy.
DeleteOh, it is a horrifying topic for many reasons. It's amazing that woman was found. Recently, we have had older people with dementia go missing. Just this week, I heard on the news how the caregiver said he walked out the door and they couldn't find him. And that was tragic, as well. But as you wrote, we do have more high-tech ways in investigating these cases, too.
ReplyDeleteSadly, there are many cases of older people getting lost; even those with caregivers , or in nursing homes. Finding them quickly, alive and well is not always a successful mission.
DeleteWell, maybe her husband was abusive, she ran away and started another life, and ended up in a nursing home. Hard to know - right?
ReplyDeleteMay be Sandie ; it has crossed my mind, of course, yet the whole thing sounds exaggerated: 42 years sudden disappearance, nothing known at work or among neighbors/friends/colleagues. So, I'm not convinced about the husband. But, who knows.
DeleteI guess we'll never know the truth. If she was being abused the husband was probably a good actor in public and convinced people that he was a good guy. That happens a lot. I feel for her.
ReplyDeleteAgree; we'll never know the truth. I feel for her too, and ask myself questions such as where has she been all this time? What has she done with herself until she got to the nursing home?
DeleteI cannot even imagine what it would be like for a family member to disappear. Would one ever have peace of mind ever again?
ReplyDeleteI believe that losing a member of the family even temporary , is forever a blow to one's peace of mind.
DeleteYes, a sad story indeed. Disappearance is as bad, if not worse, than death, for at least with death loved ones have closure.
ReplyDeleteThe word 'closure' is significant in these sad matters. There are unsolved cases of missing persons, with no closure for the family.
DeleteI can't imagine the disappearing, either. Not saying a word. I suppose if someone was beaten or abused, in danger. But most of the time it's something more sinister. I can't imagine the worry, the waiting, the hoping.
ReplyDeleteIt seems this case was a challenge for the police investigators. They didn't let go of it for years. There was no family to put pressure, the husband probably got remarried, colleagues at work forgot about her. Only the police kept opening the file until they got to her.
DeleteIt must be so difficult for the family of missing people, having no answers. It's amazing how some people just don't want to be found for a variety of reasons. Sad all round.
ReplyDelete" It's amazing how some people don't want to be found for a variety of reasons". I totally agree with you, Jo.
DeleteMissing 42 years. Wow.
ReplyDeleteSandra sandracox.blogspot.com
Yes, Sandra, incredible! She was 36 at the time of the disappearance, and 78 when found with all the secrets locked within her.
DeleteVery interesting story about Flora. I wonder which is the true story?
ReplyDeleteInteresting, and giving food for thought!
DeleteShe was found, yet she was unable to tell her story, even if she wanted to. The secret will remain with her.
Sometimes disappeared people don't want to be found. A lot disappeared during the Tsunami and started a new life. I have read so many very interesting stories.
ReplyDeleteTrue. I haven't read any such Tsunami story, but I know that disappearance stories in general, are interesting to read and ponder about.
DeleteBoa tarde e uma excelente terça-feira minha querida amiga Duta. Infelizmente isso acontece muito aqui no Brasil.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunatly. It happens everywhere, Luiz.
DeleteI hope some part of this poor woman's life was happy prior to her dementia and that she is being well looked after now.
ReplyDeleteI hope too, and can't help feeling sad for her.
DeleteOh, it must be devastating when people just disappear for whatever reason. it is always interesting to hear when people are found A shame that Flora has dementia.
ReplyDeleteIt is.The joy of finding Flora , soon turned into disappointment and sadness because of her condition. There's a photo in the Media of her between the two police sheriffs.
DeleteUna trista història, massa de fet.
ReplyDeleteHi ha molta gent que desapareix i no es torna a saber d'ells en la seva vida. Sospitosos? Generalment la gent del seu entorn, el marit, els pares, un oncle, el nuvi...
Aferradetes, Duta.
Sad, indeed. There are many cases of disappearance; part of them are either not found at all, or not found alive. In both cases it's tragic.
DeleteCaso muy extraño el de Flora. Mucha personas desaparecen, a unas se las encuentra y otras no vuelven a dar señales de vida. Solo Flora sabe el por qué decidió desaparecer.
ReplyDeleteBuena semana.
Un abrazo.
It would seem the only suspect here is Flora; there's no one else to blame for her disappearance. Yet, she's the only one who knows the truth.
DeleteNa vida das pessoas a mente prega algumas partidas, que podem resultar em verdadeiras torturas.
ReplyDeleteAbraço amigo.
Juvenal Nunes
No one knows what goes on in one's mind. The mind could really play on us tricks that might lead to unpleasant results.
DeleteHugs to you too, Juvenal.
Trágico caso el de esta señora que por lo que te leo nunca sabremos lo que le sucedió.
ReplyDeleteMe parece muy raro que si desapareció hace 42 años, cuando ya se encontraba en un asilo de anciano ¿Cuantos años tiene esta señora? porque en un asilo de anciano se suele entrar como muy pronto, a partir de los sesenta años...
Un abrazo, amiga Duta.
She was 36 when she disappeared from her town, place of work, and 78 when found by the police in the nursing home of another town in the USA. We don't know at what age she entered the nursing home. Her story appeared in the Media, Manuel.
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