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A few years later, I left town, and that was it; we completely lost touch.
In March of this year (the month is significant to the story), I happened to be in her neighborhood, and I noticed that their modest one level house had been replaced by an elegant 2-storey building. I stood near the gate for a while not knowing what to do with myself as I felt the need to talk to somebody. Luckily, a woman came out of the building. I approached her , introduced myself , told her that many years ago, I knew the owners of the place, and added that I would appreciate if she could give me some information.
She seemed reluctant to talk to me; however, she uttered three short but valuable sentences. She said : 'she had never met the old couple'; 'she believed they were not alive at the time of the house's sale'; 'her family bought the house from the grandchildren' .
I thanked her and went away.
Back home, I googled the city cemetery list to find out age and date of death. The wife, 85 years old, died in March 2011; the husband, 90, a month later. Well then, I said to myself: they had reached a respectable age... and was about to light candles in their memory.
Something was bothering me, though. The woman said her family had bought the house from the grandchildren; What about the two children, where were they? I decided to 'dig' things further. Browsing, I came upon a family tree, and....deep, uncontrollable, sadness overcame me. Both children were gone long before the parents: the daughter at 32, the son at 41. Instead of two candles, I lighted four.(We're celebrating Hannuka feast this week, and I'm lighting candles , so this has brought back to me the sad memory).
That's the horrific side of longevity; parents might get predeceased by one or more of their children. In our society, it happens quite often as life expectancy has increased during the last decades, but so has the number of accidents and diseases that kill the young ones. It has happened in my family too.
However, I know that in some cases, bereaved parents find no consolation in grandchildren; in other cases grandchildren find it hard to cope with this unnatural situation of parent(s) dead and grandparent(s) alive, and estrange themselves from the latter.
Tragic from any angle one looks at it. Life is certainly not all wine and roses.
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