Saturday, August 11, 2018

The Greatest Fear of All ..


Over the years, I've sometimes wondered about the fate of an 11 year old boy kidnapped by his father without his knowing at the time, that prior to  that, the father had already murdered  his (the boy's) mother and grandmother.

Only recently, twenty years later, the boy, now a 31-year veterinary doctor,  married man, and father of a child - has decided to open up on his traumatic story.
(I got to read only the written version, an exclusive interview; haven't watched yet the doco entitled 'Daddy where are my Mom and my Grandma?' created by the journalist - interviewer).

Both parents were scientists at the prestigious Weizmann Institute of Science in the town of Rechovot; they were not married,  but had a court parenthood agreement regarding the boy's  living with his mother and being on certain days at his father's place.

The police had no clue about the whereabouts of father and son. It was the kidnapped boy that finally provided the clue.
Whenever left alone in the hotel room in Bern, Switzerland (fugitive father being busy with getting passports) - he tried and succeeded to dial to the phone numbers of his mother/grandmother in Israel;  these unanswered phone calls were intercepted by the police and eventually led to the capture of the father.

At the trial, the child, still in trauma and tearful, was brought to give testimony , but he refused to do so in his father's presence; he was terrified and unable to face him. So the father had to be taken out of the room.

The young vet has still good reason to be afraid of his father. The latter (sentenced for life) might find a way to get a temporary leave from prison and try to meet "his  boy". So far, his repeated requests for such a leave have been rejected. But... one never knows. The interview, however, ends on an optimistic note.

Somehow, reading  between the lines, I got the feeling that the son's  greatest fear of all was ...genetics. 

We can never predict the right combination of genes that one inherits from mother and father, if at all. As a medical person and son of two scientists, he knows more than we do about that, and I suppose he's, naturally, worried if not for himself, then for his offspring.

They say (jokingly) about money that Money's not all, it's just the One thing.  Genetics, they say (seriously), is not the One thing that determines our future; Environment is also a factor and it can influence our genes and traits.  True, only no one seems to know the proper formula. (By the way, the father grew up in the best environment one could dream of - in one of the most rich and respectable families in the town of Rechovot).



34 comments:

  1. What a terribly sad, tragic story this is. And one can understand (to an extent) how the young man must feel about genetics. That would be a personal fear...something that would play on the mind of someone in his position. I hope he is receiving professional assistance to help him eradicate all his fears.

    And I also hope that the justice system there is tougher than ours here...and the monster of a father is never allowed to walk free. May he rot in jail!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Sadly, the justice system in my country is very, very weak. They should have made the father's life a misery as the body of the boy's mother has never been found; he refuses to disclose the place ( only her car stained with blood was found). Instead, he got some sort of status in jail, teacher of maths to those convicts that wish to study and obtain a degree of some sort.

      Delete
    2. I'm forever shaking my head, DUTA, over the injustices, the stupidity. the unfathomable acts I see on the news bulletins and read about in the papers, it's a wonder my head is still attached to my neck!!

      Delete
    3. Same with me. I take these things hard. I haven't watched the documentary as I know it's not for 'the faint of heart'.

      Delete
  2. Do we know why did the father murder the mother and grandmother?
    Justice system is weak in my country as well, money plays the role here. We have, for example, a case of a billionaire's son who killed a girl with his car and is still not in jail.
    I remember that story about the girl who was kidnapped by a woman as a baby and raised by her not knowing she isn't her mother, and when her real mother found her, the girl refused to leave her 'fake' mother. It was all over the news recently.

    I've always thought prisoners should not really get any special treatment in jails, especially murderers, they should dig holes, work in mines, work on farms, roads etc. for free of course :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I very much agree with your last paragraph, but nowadays, human life has become cheap, very cheap.

      The father wanted the boy to himself only, and was morbidly jealous of the boy's happiness with his mother and grandmother. At 50, he quit his job to spy on the boy and the two women. According to the boy's testimony,there were quarels about his not paying alimony.

      Delete
    2. Do you remember when a few years ago that psycho mass murderer Breivik sued the state of Norway because his 'human rights' were broken in jail while he is serving life sentence... that's how ridiculous judicial system sometimes is.

      Delete
    3. Of course. His appeal was rejected. By the way, he was sentenced for 21 years of prison, not for life.

      Delete
  3. I think about that subject a lot too. I wonder about the parents and children of psychopaths. It's a chilling thought.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Obviously, the father in this case was a psychopat. It makes us think a lot, but there are no answers. We know so very little about the human mind, genetics, and how to prevent disasters! Chilling, indeed.

      Delete
  4. What an awful thing for that boy to have to go through.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. His life is what we call 'before' and 'after'. However, in this case the 'before' was too short; he was only 11, and the 'after' will go with him till he closes his eyes - with the usual ups and downs of life. The ups being: his profession, wife, and child.

      Delete
  5. It really is amazing he's managed to become a vet. My oh my. He's a survivor.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. He is indeed a survivor.
      Not surprising he chose to deal with animals in his daily life. His faith in humans was, no doubt, heavily shaken.

      Delete
  6. I can't imagine living with the memories and the continual fear and, yes, a child would have some guilty feelings, unfounded and unnecessary. What a story.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. True. It's hard to imagine how he carries on with all those memories, fears, and feelings.

      They say 'Man is stronger than Steel'. Well, this young man is living proof of this saying.

      Delete
  7. What a survivor this incredible man is.
    Thank you for sharing his story here.

    All the best Jan

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It's not often that we come upon an incredible person. Pity his background story is such an incredibly tragic one.

      Delete
  8. Boa tarde, as lembranças vão continuar para toda a vida na cabeça da vitima que hoje é veterinário, certamente que as mesma farão dele um bom homem.
    Feliz semana,
    AG

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I agree with your optimistic comment. The memories will go with him, but will make him a good, strong man.

      Delete
  9. Interesting story, Duta! We were just talking yesterday about how bad things happen to good people. Bad seeds are abundant in this crazy world today and no parent wants to be bad but in a case like this the father should be in prison and the key thrown away or even worse. Too bad the son will have this on his mind every day for the rest of his life while trying to be a nurturing optimistic parent to his own son. It's almost enough to make one wonder if one should have a child because of this sort of genetic background.
    Have a great week!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. We have a lot of questions, but only God has all the answers; science doesn't seem to have them. Anyway, we understand very little of how genetics works.

      Delete
  10. I am not familiar with this profoundly sad story. Yes, genetics would be a concern but so, too, is free will to live a different life. It sounds as though he is doing all the right things though, this young man, a survivor indeed.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. That's my impression too, namely that he's doing "all the right things", so he'll escape the bad genetics.

      Delete
  11. What a sad story! I can understand his fear though. Thankfully we have a God bigger than genetics.

    Blessings~

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Well said - "God is bigger than genetics". He's bigger than anything; that's why we pray to him asking for help and guidance.

      Delete
    2. What a sad story! I like how you said it --- God is bigger than genetics.

      Delete
    3. The previous commenter 'A Joyful Chaos' wrote that, and I totally agree with her. I like it that you also like it, because that's the big truth of our existence.

      Delete
    4. Jumping in here, after reading the post and its a hard topic to read and comment on. I also like how A Joyful Chaos said it, and agree with Sandi and you!! Praise God for anyone who calls on the name of the LORD can be saved!!

      Delete
    5. Thanks Shayndel for "jumping in" and commenting. We can't escape the truth that there's a higher power than us that decides things. (We call it God, others call it the Universe or Supernatural Power). Praying to God is my way of getting help.

      Delete
  12. Hello Duta, I think that the very fact that this young man has this worry on his mind shows that he has a caring soul and empathy.
    What makes me angry is that in our judicial system a term of 'life' doesn't mean for the whole of life, just a few years given appeals etc. Whereas victims have received their life sentence.
    A very thoughtful post.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. So very true! It's only the victim that actually gets her life sentence. The judicial system, in the so called civilized world is a farce, nothing else.

      Delete
  13. It is atornishing to me, that when people do stuff like this they never think about the impact of their actions on say the child or all those left behind in mourning. How does one get to such a desperate and violent act. So so sad! I wish before people were required to get married or have children they were required to take a class that may way people down various roads like role playing to talk about issues that I don't think people should talk about before walking down these roads. I also wish that it was easier for those to get counseling whether it be for marriage or mental illness. There is still so much stigma surrounding these forms of help. Also, price tag also being another issue. Wish insurance picked up more of the tab.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Your wishes are logical. Pre- marriage education and counseling could be very beneficial.
      Mental cases could also be helped by the right counseling services.

      Delete